Dear Standord Attacker. AKA "Little Boy."

I haven't said anything on the Standford rape/attack that happened. It is the same thing I read about when men get away with what they have done or get a slap on the wrist.

What has outraged me with this case is the short sentence and the fact that the father of the attacker is pleading that a 6 months jail sentence is far too much time for his son to pay for "20 minutes" of actions. As if 20 minutes was even far too much for him, the one being the attacker.

As I read through the letter that the victim wrote, feelings came back that have taken me ten years to overcome. Feelings that I know were of nothing that I did.  Feelings that were forced on me because someone felt the need to take it, that they deserved it was theirs.

Flashbacks of a time where someone decided that a part of me is something they could take away forever. Not even thinking of what I would have to deal with for the rest of my life. How much I would have to fight to get that part of me back and to get myself to remember that, that is ok to get that part of me back. It is no one's, it is MINE.

I read the excuses he gives as to why what he did was ok or needs to even be forgiven. I'm sorry little boy (I won't even call you by your name, you are little, sorry excuse, scared and a bully of a boy, NOT even close to what a man should be.) your excuses are invalid for your actions and any type of forgiveness. Actions have consequences. Some actions have BIG consequences. This action you took has consequences not only that you have to deal with, but your victim has to deal with for the rest of her life. NONE of which she asked for and NONE of which you had the right to give or do under ANY circumstances. NONE AT ALL.

Alcohol was a factor. Alcohol is a factor in many things. But alcohol does not kill innocent people, rape women, ect. It is the PEOPLE who decide to drink that make those wrong decisions and wrong moves. It is the persons actions that it comes down to and what they have decided to do.

Now your father has issued a statement asking the judge to be lenient with you. 6 months is far too much of a punishment for 20 minutes of your life. Your father is your father and he loves you. As he should. Parents should love their kids, but can not love their actions. I sit here and wonder, IF this had happened to his daughter, would he feel the same? Would he feel it is ok for the attackers father to come out and write this plea, as if the attacker were actually the victim? I would hope the answer would be no, but in today's world, nothing is ever what we think it should be.

Dear little boys father, I know you love your son, but you should be ashamed that he did this. I know as parents we can only teach our children so much, but they have to make their own decisions. Some of those will be wrong, VERY wrong. How do you think it is ok to make him out to be the victim. Sure he will live with this for the rest of his life, but not like the victim will. He will never be able to know what she has gone through until he himself is treated as such an object. As such that someone deserved to take something from him. No one is asking to not love your son or love him any less. We are asking that you stop and think about what your letter, your plea is really saying. Especially to other young women out there and especially to the victim. That woman your son attacked And is it so far fetched that you remind your son to think the same way? To remind your son of the AWFUL thing he did to another human being? We all make mistakes and some are bad, some we cannot recover from. But because it is a mistake, does not mean that some of those mistakes we don't pay for. This is a mistake he SHOULD and NEEDS to pay for. The APPROPRIATE form of paying for what he did.

This whole thing has sickened me, outraged me, the feelings and emotions I have felt have been all over the place. I am angered that this boy is getting out of being correctly punished because of a family's status, ect. I am horrified that this seems to be a thing that is becoming more and more common. Boys getting away with this awful type of crime. Nothing he can do, will help make that victim not ever again live with what happened to her. But a more appropriate punishment SHOULD be done. It's the least our system can do. And it is failing us more and more at that.....

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/early-lead/wp/2016/06/04/you-took-away-my-worth-a-rape-victim-delivers-powerful-message-to-a-former-stanford-swimmer/?wpmm=1&wpisrc=nl_wemost-draw5

*This is my own thoughts, opinions and feelings on this matter. You may agree or disagree, I just ask, as always you be respectful.